Guess what, lovebug? You can be nice AND opinionated. Nice AND someone who speaks up for injustice. Nice AND have clear boundaries with other people. . I see so many people who stop at “nice” because they’re afraid that they might lose their pleasing persona if they started speaking up for what they believe in or who they are or what they really need. And in business, the Nice Person might water down their message in order to speak to *everyone* instead of directly to the *right people* because they’re scared that they’ll drive someone away. . The truth is: you might. Some people might disagree with you. Some people may not like you for having an opinion. But the people who will? They’re going to really, really LOVE YOU for it. . Do me a favor today: Decide who else you want to be besides a Nice Person. Pick one quality that you want to emulate -- one thing that if people said it about you at your funeral, you’d feel like you did something right in your life. ⚡️✨ What’s your word? Leave a comment below to commit to it! ⤵️
I have a secret to tell you: I run a mostly digital business, but one of my faaaavorite things is to connect with people in person. So...I’m thinking about doing some IN-PERSON WORKSHOPS 🤩 to teach you about topics like creating courses, online marketing, blogging, and more! I’d LOVE to know if you’re interested. 💛 . Here’s my vision (and leave a comment if you’re into this!)... 1. The workshop has to feel CREATIVE. We’ll probably be talking online business/blogging strategy, but I imagine beautiful venues, gorgeous decor, custom goodies for all attendees, and a workshop space that all around feels INSPIRING. 2. Small-ish groups. I’m thinkin’ 20 people or less so that I can reaaallly connect with everyone and make sure that no one gets left behind. Think: big enough for everyone to make connections, but small enough that it feels like a big family. 3. Inclusive!! I’d want to ensure that a diverse blend of humans can come to these workshops. I know this isn’t something I’ve always done a great job of in the past, but it’s something I’m committed to working on and putting real effort into. 4. Concrete TAKEAWAYS. I’d want you to leave with some major thing FINISHED or at least in progress enough that you can finish it later with ease. I imagine there’d be time to put whatever I teach you in action so that you leave with big items knocked off your to do list. 5. FUNNNNNN!!! One of my values is fun (and hugging. and dance parties) so I’d want this workshop to feel FUN and not like some stuffy corporate seminar. . I’m thinking I’d host the first one in Los Angeles, but if people are into them, maybe I could visit some other cities too! Can you leave a comment if you’re interested in something like this? If enough people comment, I might just do it! ❤️🥳 (Pics are from some past workshops and retreats I’ve hosted!) 😊
“When you you don’t know what to do, do nothing. Get still until you do know. You always know the answer when you’re willing to hear your own truth.” -Oprah . That quote perfectly encapsulates what my recent 6-month sabbatical from my company taught me about myself. Ever since I was 15, I was one of the biggest “doers” you’d ever meet. An emotion I didn’t want to feel? I started a club at school. A fear of being unworthy? I created a company. . Of course, none of this was conscious; I convinced myself that this was just who I was -- a high achiever. A leader. It took over a decade to finally realize that I was using achievement to mask the fear that always simmered just below the surface. For years it felt like a silent mumble, until last year it grew into a whisper: “maybe all this doing is just covering up my fear of truly being?” . Eventually, my body said ENOUGH and my doctor ordered me to take a break. I’m so everloving grateful for this body of mine -- for the wisdom it held when my mind was still trying to prove its worth. I’m grateful to my body for leading me to exhaustion, adrenal fatigue, burnout. It knew me when I couldn’t. . Eventually, as my body healed, I wanted to start DOing again, just not in the way I did before. First, I Marie Kondo-ed my business. I held up every project and activity and said, “Am I doing this because it’s bringing me joy or because I hope it will bring me validation?” I started cooking again. I bought art supplies and made things that didn’t matter to anyone but me. I did yoga and meditation. I began taking beekeeping classes with @samshaw01 (we get our first hives soon!!). We also adopted a rescue chinchilla, lizard, and snake, and plan to help tons more animals. I channeled lots of creative energy into interior design. I spent time with friends who cleaned off the cobwebbed corners of my soul. I did things, but from my truth, not my fear. . It took me 6 months to come back to myself, but sweet pea, what if it only took you 6 minutes? Because all it really takes is a declaration -- a CHOICE -- that you’re going to live your truth and nobody else’s. Are you with me? ❤️🎈
Last fall I was diagnosed with the physical symptoms of burnout, like adrenal fatigue, raging cortisol, and more. My naturopath gave me a lengthy protocol to follow during my healing process (like supplements, quitting hormonal birth control, etc). But the #1 thing he prescribed to me? STOP WORKING. . “Stop working?”, said my 7-year old self who, beneath layers of healing still screamed, “But then who will love me!!?” . “Who will I be without my work?” she whispered. “Who can love me if I have nothing to show for myself?” But I knew something needed to change, so I began a 6-month sabbatical from my company. . For the first 2 months I found myself on the couch, binge watching Netflix and feeling sorry for myself. Whenever my boyfriend walked in the room, I’d reassure him that I was “just taking a break” or “going to get back to work soon.” I noticed how deeply I felt that I couldn’t possibly be loveable, even by my best friend, unless I was DOing something. I felt too boring, too simple, too not enough. And every single time he’d say, “take all the time you need,” or my personal favorite, “you look so cute just sitting there.” At first the words wouldn’t register. Cute? Sitting here? Doing nada? . Eventually he began to wear me down. And I kind of believed him when he’d say that I was loveable even when I was still. And the strangest thing happened -- I started to hear that 7-year old voice inside myself say the same thing. She said, “look at how funny you are, and how silly, too.” She reminded me that I can start a 90s music sing-a-long at the drop of a hat, and that sometimes I get random bursts of energy where I feel excited about everything -- the moon, a weed in the crack of the sidewalk, a bumble bee. She showed me my empathy and my insightfulness. My love for animals and nature, and my hard-wired creativity. She reminded me that I’m not always the loudest person, but I can listen in a way that allows people to speak their life stories in my presence. . As I unraveled my identity, I began to discover the “me” who was aching to come out all this time. The “me” who was endlessly loved just for just existing. And the best part of it all? I started to be her.
I’m aliiiiiiveeeeeeeee! 🤗 . 8 months ago I was scrolling through Instagram for what felt like the 47th time that day and the thought popped into my head, “Is this serving me right now?” So, in a moment of rabid spontaneity, I deleted the Instagram app from my phone. Just for the weekend, I thought. . But once Monday came around, I still wasn’t feeling called to return. I decided that I’d only use it when it felt right, intentional, joyful. And unbeknownst to me at the time...it would take 8 months before I’d re-download the app and log back onto Instagram again. . So many people have asked if I was okay -- I guess when you suddenly stop posting online for half a year, people start to think you’ve died. 😅 But seriously, such sweet humans on this earth, I tell ya!! And how am I? I am feeling so freakin’ wonderful as I beam in here to you today, but the past few months were not without their teaching moments. 😝😝 . 6 months ago I decided to take a sabbatical from my business (spoiler alert: March is my first month back and I’m having such a blast again!). At the time, I was feeling majorly burnt out, tired ALL the time, and really apathetic and emotional. The best way I can describe it is that I didn’t feel like ME. I went to a naturopath last fall who ran a zillion blood tests and told me that I had adrenal fatigue, really high cortisol (stress hormone) levels, and a thyroid issue. Basically, all of the physical manifestations of BURNOUT. . And while some of that came from my “DOing instead of BEing” lifestyle at the time, it was also from the hormonal birth control pills I’d been taking for *years* that were wreaking havoc on my body. That’s a story for another day, but my goodness, I did not realize how much birth control pills eff with your system. . Oh man, I have so.much.more I want to share with you about how these past few months of rediscovering myself have been some of the BEST of my life. I feel like “me” again! :) I think Instagram has a character limit that I am coming dangerously close to #constantoversharer), so I’ll pop back in again soon. I love and appreciate you guys! <3 Thanks for stickin’ with me on my healing journey, lovebugs! ✨🌈😘
We think we love to travel because it helps us learn about new places, but I think the real reason is because it helps us learn about ourselves. ✨ . About a week ago I left for a trip to Europe (my first time here!). Copenhagen greeted me with beautiful castles, expansive parks, and the idea of “Hygge” — a way of being in the present where you appreciate the fun and simple beauty of life. Then, Berlin met me with its moving, complicated history, and with its devotion to creativity and acceptance. . But between walking tours and snapping photos, what struck me the most is what these cities *really* taught me — about myself. . Copenhagen was a lesson in Presence. In seeing what life can be like when I stop giving power to the past and stop fearing the future. When I live entirely in the Now. It’s a breathtaking reminder that presence and playfulness are available to me in every moment, and that the more I can cultivate a culture of presence within myself, the more it will inspire the people around me to live in the Now, too. . Berlin, on the other hand, was a lesson in love and acceptance. It reminded me that we are all on our own paths, learning what we need to learn in this life. And that trying to control someone else’s path, or assuming I know what’s best for it, is really just a form of avoidance. 🤭 It’s a way to ignore the lessons I need to be learning on my own journey. And that the best thing I can do for others and myself is to show up with total love and support and understanding.❤️ . The beauty is that I can look back on virtually any travel experience and pick out something I learned about myself in the process. Akita, Japan taught me that life imitates seasons; that sometimes you’re winter and sometimes you’re summer. It’s all perfect. Ghana showed me that there is a fire and boldness inside me that refuses to stay small. Every place I’ve traveled to has been a classroom; the curriculum is myself. . What has travel taught you about yourself? ✨ I’d genuinely love to hear your thoughts. Leave a comment below and let me know, sweet human. 😘✈️
At the airport about to board my first flight ever to EUROPE! I’m a travel nut, but somehow have never made it to Europe. First stop, Copenhagen! I’M SO EXCITED. 💃🏻🕺🏻 Any suggestions of things to do, eat, or see in any of these places? I’m down for some typical touristy stuff, but what I really love is having a more local experience. Let me know your best recs! ❤️ . Also, any jet lag tips?? The flight leaves LA at 11pm and arrives there at 7pm local time (but it’ll be 10am at home, so I feel like my jet lag is going to be all kinds of effed up 😅). I’m thinking about staying up as late as possible on the flight so I’m really tired when I get there. Bad idea?! I’d love your tips or anything that’s worked for you for weirdly timed overnight flights! . I’m also missing my travel partner in crime this time, @samshaw01!! But we’re doing a 3-week eurotrip in a couple months...Because when you’ve never been to Europe, it only makes sense to cram in 5 weeks within the span of 3 months. 😂😅 #overachiever . Oh!! I’m also considering doing meetups in Berlin and Amsterdam...thoughts?! We can grab coffee together and hang out! . Oh man, this post is all over the place hahah. Okay THAT IS ALL. Love you people. Byeeeee! 👋🏼👋🏼
Do you know the easiest way to true happiness, fulfillment, and peace? Take ownership for EVERYTHING that happens in your life. When you don’t take responsibility for what happens in your life, then it’s easy to become a victim to your circumstances rather than a co-creator of your reality. . For example, the next time you’re in an argument with your partner, be the first person to say, “I take responsibility for how I contributed to the distance we’re feeling right. Here’s how I’m going to do better.” . Or if you have a falling out with a friend and your first inclination is to tell people how much they wronged you, instead ask yourself, “How did I create a space where their negative behavior was acceptable? How can I take ownership for the part I played in the demise of that friendship?” . Or what about with your business? Instead of saying, “I create great online courses, but my market’s too saturated so it’s been really hard to make sales,” try asking yourself what part you’ve played in your lack of sales. Is there an area you could have put more effort into? Have your subconscious fears about growing your business played a role in its lack of growth? . Taking radical responsibility over your life isn’t always the easy route. It’s tough to acknowledge how we played a role in the challenges we’ve experienced. It’s far easier to be a victim — to feel that life is happening TO you rather than you being the co-creator of your circumstances. But while it may not be the easy path, it’s absolutely the one of the most freedom (and likely, the most success). Is there an area of your life right now that you need to take more responsibility for? Leave a comment and let me know! 🙌🏼✨💛
"Making a million dollars could threaten your identity just as much as losing all your money; becoming a famous rock star could threaten your identity just as much as losing your job. This is why people are often so afraid of success -- for the exact same reason they're afraid of failure: it threatens who they believe themselves to be." -Mark Manson . Ohhh snap! Can we unpack this for a second? It's a biggie. Have you ever heard someone say that they just never seem to have success? That they've struggled for years to keep their business afloat? That they have a big dream, but they haven't pursued it yet for XYZ reason? Perhaps you have felt this way, too. . But what if we avoid achieving our dreamiest goals because we're actually just scared of altering who we believe ourselves to be? Because achieving your desires could mean all kinds of consequences...being seen differently by your friends and family. Losing a quality you've always been seen as having (humility, generosity, etc). Growing beyond a relationship. . Lovebug, are you limiting your potential somewhere because deep down, the thought of success freaks you out? Are you grasping onto your old identity, too afraid to step into your greatness because of how it might change your life? It’s time to step beyond your fears of who you could be and into the power of who you truly are. ✨🙌🏼 Type YES in the comments below if you’re willing to shed your old skin to become who you’re meant to be. ❤️❤️ Let’s do this!
Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened. - Anatole France . This quote is 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼. After getting my dog, Monja, I felt like a new part of my heart came into focus. It was actually incredible to me that I had gone over two decades without ever even knowing that there was another layer to my love that I hadn't yet experienced. So grateful to this fluffy, sassy, playful, cuddly kiddo for being such a special part of my 20s. . Leave a comment below with the emoji that MOST looks like your pet. I'm excited for this. Monja's would probably be this one: 😸😸😸(I think it's supposed to be a cat, so let's not tell Monja because he'd probably be pissed).
I was 15 when I first thought about killing myself. I felt like a burden to those around me -- that I didn't bring anything special to the world. I blamed myself for being bullied during most of my childhood. For never fitting in. For the challenges in my family. . There were happy moments too, but as soon as they were over I fell quickly back into a familiar emptiness. I started seeing a therapist who was no help -- I regularly skipped appointments because she would forget my name or mix me up with her other clients. "I don't even matter to the person who's being paid to help me." I was deeply depressed, yet could never bring myself to the point of suicide. I remember berating myself for this: "You can't even kill yourself right." . Shortly after that period of my life, I found a razor blade in my brother's bathroom. It didn't really register in my mind as anything important -- I figured he used it for shaving. It wasn't until I got a call saying, "Your brother told his friend that he was going to kill himself tonight" that it took on a new meaning. I hated myself for living next door to someone so important to me and not seeing the cuts on his arms. For interpreting his sadness and isolation as simply "teen angst." . Thankfully, my brother overcame that time in his life. Now, he's hilarious and kind and happy. A leader. Getting a Ph.D. in Neuroscience. As for me, I experience unbelievable joy on a daily basis. The same sensitivity that once exacerbated my depression is now what helps me experience deep beauty and love in the world everyday. Same me. Different mindset. . If you can relate, then I want you to know that it gets better. That there are numerous resources that are here to help you. One of those is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255. I want you to know that people deeply love you, even if it doesn’t feel that way. That I love you. And that if you let them, your greatest struggles could become the source of your deepest gratitude. Promise. ♥️