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the_ex_adoptee. Writing this piece about turning fifty, the adoptee experience, and fa

Writing this piece about turning fifty, the adoptee experience, and fatherhood just made me feel better. #Repost @mythsmisgivings • • • • • • From our continuing Father's Day Series, where we feature adoptee fathers' voices. Today, we have a very moving piece by James Straker @the_ex_adoptee Link in the bio. #adoptee #adoptionblog #adoption

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Through “23 & Me” I discovered in the last couple of days, while on vacation, that I have two half-sisters and that my birth father is still living. One sister is in Jupiter, FL, another is in North Carolina and my birth father lives in Ohio. I’ve reached out to them and await a response. I was adopted at a month old, and I learned of my maternal birth family in the early 2000’s. This new information is the final piece of the puzzle. . . . . #adoption #adoptee #raybuffer #adopteerights #love #instagood #adoptionjourney #adopteevoices #birthfather #adopted #adopteemovement #model #adoptees #adoptionislove #birthmom #adopteestrong #adoptionstory #adoptionrocks #humanrights #adopteejourney #adopteelife #adopteehealing #23andme #birthfamily #family #fathersday #BirthFather #dna #DNA #bts

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danilefulu. All this year I have been discovering more about my adoption, partiall

All this year I have been discovering more about my adoption, partially because I wanted to and partially because it was my senior project. Being adopted for me is such a large part of who I am. It is definitely a love hate relationship sometimes. But I’ll skip the long sappy caption. Here is to being an adoptee for 20 years of my life! #happygotchaday #adoptee #love #adoption #planeday

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strakerjames. Glad to be able to write a little piece for Father's Day

#Repost @myt

Glad to be able to write a little piece for Father's Day #Repost @mythsmisgivings • • • • • • From our continuing Father's Day Series, where we feature adoptee fathers' voices. Today, we have a very moving piece by James Straker @the_ex_adoptee Link in the bio. #adoptee #adoptionblog #adoption

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willardhouserules. 🎉Tomorrow the blog goes live about our transracial adoption journey,

🎉Tomorrow the blog goes live about our transracial adoption journey, just in time for Father's Day! I would love to have you join us.💓⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Two years ago, we began our journey as the Willard Family of Five. You'll hear more stories on the blog and learn more about our adoption story, the rules we live by, and how we live life as a transracial family.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ All adoption stories are unique so we are not different in that way. However, we are unique in the fact that we had not filled out even the preliminary paperwork for adoption before the girls were placed with us. And then three weeks later, they moved into our house and our lives forever changed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #WillardHouseRules⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💜👶🏾💜👶🏾💜👶🏾⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #adoptionrocks #adoption #transracialadoption #adoptionjourney #stl #stlouis #midwestliving #adoptivemom #birthmom #adoptionannouncement #adoptee #motherhoodunplugged #childhoodunplugged #blackgirlmagic #domesticadoption #adopted #mixedfamily #fathersday #fathersday2019 #adoptionislove

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mythsmisgivings. From our continuing Father's Day Series, where we feature adoptee fath

From our continuing Father's Day Series, where we feature adoptee fathers' voices. Today, we have a very moving piece by James Straker @the_ex_adoptee Link in the bio. #adoptee #adoptionblog #adoption

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asacpublications. #AdoptionNews: 
NY Senate passes historic bill for #adoptee rights

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#AdoptionNews: NY Senate passes historic bill for #adoptee rights Read more here: http://westchester.news12.com/story/40592174/ny-senate-passes-historic-bill-for-adoptee-rights. #adoption #kinship #culture

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sammiejoegill. #shareyourvoice 
@kerwinrae 
There are no mistakes in life , and from

#shareyourvoice @kerwinrae There are no mistakes in life , and from living in silence for 45 years and carrying the trauma , hurt , sadness , anger and fear and creating an external world reflecting those feelings has led me to who I am today . A seeker of my own truth and the creator of my own destiny . We only know what we know until we know more and I'm so grateful to have that open mind and discovered a whole different reality that has led me to embracing life with two hands And I wouldn't waiste another second.. Live the life you want We can choose We define ourselves We can change a lifetime of pain..You just gotta know how My message is to any one who has experienced trauma and life truly is far from the life you thought you could create..there is a way ..And I'm happy to share what and how to anyone .. Adoptees are living in silence and what I do hear and see is a lot of adootees still living in this pain , trauma and this is all real ..it is exactly a reflection of how your feeling and believing Maybe like me you sold yourself this story and like a fire keep fanning it believing this is how it is This is my lot This is my own secret hell with no way out .. Well there is 💜💜 When someone said to me " how is adoption serving you ?" I could have jumped down the phone .... But it was the most important line I heard in my life for it made me question..And it made me dig deep It led me to investing in research and knowledge that had never existed It led me to experiencing a world I celebrated to find It led me to starting an incredible new life with an an internal reflection that serves me and others well We are either a lesson or an example in life ..but we have a choice !! You are enough , infact it is my honest belief today that amongst our family of adoptees here lies the diamonds of humanity ..And we have the ability to empower and impact humanity in a positive way The universe , god , spirit however you see it Offers unlimited abundance to all and our pain our trauma is there to walk through to experience the opposite in this lifetime .. We are unlimited , we are millions world wide We are one

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Toby is now less than 12 lbs down from 21 lbs. He is happy that his diet is over! #adoptee #adoption #adoptdontshop #adoptables #tailshigh #annandale #petco

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willardhouserules. Ya'll. Parenting is hard. Parenting three children who had a life befo

Ya'll. Parenting is hard. Parenting three children who had a life before you knew them is even tougher. I try to put on a tough face with my girls.💪 Even when the days are tough. Even when SW (2 years-old) throws tantrum after tantrum after tantrum. Even when MW (4 years-old) has a meltdown. Even when I have a meltdown. After all, we have to make it through each day. But some days I'm reminded that I can offer myself and the girls a little grace.❤️ We recently celebrated our 2 year anniversary as the Willard Family of Five. As I reflected over the past 2 years, I realized there have been many things that I have not done well. This includes not always succeeding at staying patient, calm and cool with the girls. There have been many times that I didn't know how I was going to make it through the day. But with the support of friends and family, I did. I'm constantly reminding myself that I don't have to be a perfect mother (as if there is such a thing). I just need to be a loving Mommy to my 3 beautiful girls.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #WillardHouseRules⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💜👶🏾💜👶🏾💜👶🏾⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #adoptionrocks #adoption #transracialadoption #adoptionjourney #stl #stlouis #midwestliving #adoptivemom #birthmom #adoptionannouncement #adoptee #motherhoodunplugged #childhoodunplugged #blackgirlmagic #domesticadoption #adopted #mixedfamily #adoptionislove

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willardhouserules. We were supposed to meet our girls the week before they came home with

We were supposed to meet our girls the week before they came home with us.🏠 But life doesn't always go as planned, #amiright? Instead, we met our girls the day they came home with us. And almost instantly, we connected over donuts.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Two years ago, Chris and I jumped into the newest addition to our family - a minivan - and drove to meet and bring home BW. I don't recall what Chris and I talked about on the way to the adoption agency where we would meet BW. All I can remember is the feeling of butterflies in my stomach.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I didn't want to be nervous. I wanted to be excited and happy and joyous when I met BW. But in reality, I was terrified. What do you say to a five year-old when you instantly become their Mommy? Would she even call me Mommy right away? Would she talk to us? Would she run away from us? Did she want us to be her Mommy and Daddy?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ *I was overwhelmed with all the feelings, all the questions, all the unknowns.*⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But the moment I met BW, it was love at first sight. Chris and I smiled at BW and said hi. We tried to engage her in games and with toys in the room. BW just looked at us, unsure of what to think or do next.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🍩❤️Eventually, BW found a pillow that looked like a donut. She picked it up, handed it to Chris, and told him to eat it. As Chris pretended to eat the donut, BW laughed. And it was a beautiful heart-felt, child-like laugh. The type of laugh that makes you laugh. The type of laugh when you know a child is simply enjoying life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ BW discovered that day that daddy loves donuts. Father's Day was a few weeks later and gifts were all donut themed. Donuts are now forever a part of our adoption story. What could be better?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #WillardHouseRules⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💜👶🏾💜👶🏾💜👶🏾⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #adoptionrocks #adoption #transracialadoption #adoptionjourney #stl #stlouis #midwestliving #adoptivemom #birthmom #adoptionannouncement #adoptee #motherhoodunplugged #childhoodunplugged #blackgirlmagic #domesticadoption #adopted #adoptionislove #mixedfamily

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mythsmisgivings. I want to be a listener.  Even when I feel personally attached to some

I want to be a listener. Even when I feel personally attached to something that I love. Like a name for a project that I have poured myself into. But, when I am called to see something I was not seeing.....I don't want to turn away. And I want to listen to others the way I would like for them to listen to me when I speak from my lived experience. So, thank you for making me accountable to active listening and accountable to active change. #listen #adoption #adoptee #knowbetterdobetter

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rach_grams. Long post ahead/trigger warning since just reading the article alone m

Long post ahead/trigger warning since just reading the article alone made me cry: Father’s Day is a bittersweet day for me. Just read this article that brought me to tears. I’ve never read something that put words to the indescribable feelings I have so clearly. Growing up with someone who has an addiction is something only those who have experienced it themselves will truly understand. It’s something that still hurts to this day and I haven’t spoken to or seen my dad since I packed up for college at 18, which was 9 years ago. . . . “You will learn to hate the drug but love the addict. You will begin to accept that you need to separate who the person once was with who they are now.” About 5 years ago I started going to therapy, trying to separate who my dad was as a person from his addiction. Trying to find strength within myself to reengage in a relationship with him, knowing that he was still using. . . . “And yet, sadly... it is not the addict who dies, but the person.” He’s now been gone from this earth for 3 years and random articles like this still make me cry. Ill never know whether or not I truly wanted to talk to him again because the choice was taken from me. Alcohol took him from me. Addiction sucks for everyone. . . . For those who don’t know and probably have seen very different posts about my dad and might be confused, I’m adopted and know my birth dad. I’m thankful for the relationship I’ve been able to grow with him but I wish my adoptive dad were still here too. Needless to say, Father’s Day is a really confusing holiday that comes with a whole mixed bag of very strong emotions. So for those of you who don’t have warm and fuzzy Instagram perfect relationships with your fathers (or no relationship with them at all) and see everyone’s posts tomorrow about how great their dads are, know that I am here with you, emotionally confused and unsure how to feel on this day. Grief has no timeline. #rip #ripdad #missyou #inmyfeelstoday #childrenofalcoholics #addiction #addictionawareness #addictionrecovery #addictionsucks #grief #grievingprocess #fathersday #adopted #adoptee #adopteevoices #mentalhealthmatters #therapistsneedtherapytoo

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adopteebridge. AdopteeBridge’s tours are filled with a variety of historical and mode

AdopteeBridge’s tours are filled with a variety of historical and modern activities. Today, though busy, was a perfect example of such a day. First, beginning with a tour of the DMZ, including the 3rd tunnel and later, hearing Mr. Kim, an 88-year-old Korean War Veteran share his story about his participation in the Korean War. We are honored to have had the opportunity to meet Mr. Kim and are thankful for him taking the time to share his story. Later, we rooted for the Kiwoom Heroes, team of the famous Park, Byung Ho who previously played for the MN Twins. Tomorrow, we begin our trip south for 4 days and 3 nights to Gyeongju and Busan! . Thanks for following our updates and stay tuned for more fun! . Edited to add...those who were adventurous ventured out at 1am to cheer on the Korean men’s soccer team at the U20 World Cup being held in Poland. Unfortunately, Korea lost, but the experience of watching our motherland team in the heart of Seoul with other adoptees was a memorable moment~ . #adoptee #koreanadoptee #adoptivefamily #birthlandtour

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sylvia_emmanuella. So tomorrow is Father’s Day.
Another complicated day for many.
For me

So tomorrow is Father’s Day. Another complicated day for many. For me it is the reminder of the loss of my biological father whose home I was removed from at the age of three.It is the reminder of the loss of my adopted father at the age of fourteen due to a heart attack. • It is also a day I recognize and celebrate my partner /father to my daughter, as well as my wonderful father-in-law. • Be mindful that this day can be a mixed bag of emotions for some. Lets be sure to take care of ourselves and each other ❤️ #fathersday #fathersdaycanbehard #itscomplicated #bemindful #takecareofeachother #fatherlessdaughters #adoptee #makespacetobreathe

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simply_kelly05. Why do I use and share Young Living? Because hope, the hope of better

Why do I use and share Young Living? Because hope, the hope of better wellness, the hope for time and financial freedom. When I started using these oils, I was struggling emotionally and have been on a wild ride through the first four years of adoption reunion. • Through prayer, connections with others I’ve met because of YL, and these amazing products, I have gotten through the darker times and know that I will again. • What do you need? #wellnessjourney #wellnesspurposeabundance #findingjoyinthejourney

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kashiapalmer. My sidekick through and through! Now stop growing after age five 😉
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My sidekick through and through! Now stop growing after age five 😉 ••• I’m obsessed with my name necklaces from @soufeeljewelry. They can be adjusted to different lengths so you can wear multiples at a time. They are giving my followers 15% off with code Kastv15 click the link in my bio to get your own custom necklace with my discount #youknowmynamenotmystory #soufeel #soufeeljewelry #soufeelnamenecklace

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adoptionsfromtheheart. James Raymond expresses his gratitude for his relationship with his fe

James Raymond expresses his gratitude for his relationship with his fellow band mate and birth father, David Crosby. #HeartOfABirthFather . . . . . #FathersDay #BirthFather #BirthFathers #Dad #Fatherhood #AdoptionReunion #AdoptionAwareness #BirthParent #Adoptee #AdoptiveFather #DavidCrosby #CrosbyStillsAndNash #CrosbyStillsNashAndYoung #AFTH #AdoptionsFromTheHeart

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adopteecommunity. Trust is such an important part of relationships. Hiding siblings or f

Trust is such an important part of relationships. Hiding siblings or family can destroy numerous relationships. The parent ruins the child’s trust. The child might ignore a potential sibling because they don’t think they have a sibling. Do you have any experience with this? Do you agree? #support #share #opinion #mystory #community #adopteecommunity #truth #newperspectives #adoption #adopted #adoptee #support #thoughts #feelings #share #understanding #understand #newperspective #perspective #pov

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The fifth chakra is #vishuddha located in the throat, which is my favorite chakra. It’s my favorite, because it deals with your truth, and this is so incredibly empowering. Ironically, I mostly keep my true inner thoughts, feelings, and stories to myself. Why? Because there is a huge degree of vulnerability that comes with speaking truth—it’s kind of like being naked. But it can also be LIBERATING. Struggling to speak truth doesn’t mean we lie, but we might just stay silent. I do this silent brooding thing all the time. After thinking deeply about why I don’t speak up more, I realized that it has something to do with fear of how I will be perceived. And something to do with a social expectation placed on women to be agreeable and eloquent. My truth has NEVER been eloquent. And I’m juuust starting to own that. Fuck eloquence✌🏽I am slowly and surely reclaiming my voice and my power. 💪🏽🙌🏽 #fthisishard #journeythroughchakras Lead with truth, not with shame. Encourage truth, not shame. . . . #bridgepose #setubhandasarvangasana #healing #yoga #yogi #greece #peace #breath #yogaeverydamnday #namaste #pranayama #yogateacher #chakras #believeinyourself #adoptee #youdontlookadopted #comeasyouare #grlpower

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carrying_picnic. Well, we don’t look anything alike...😂
Seriously though, as an adopte

Well, we don’t look anything alike...😂 Seriously though, as an adoptee it NEVER escapes me how amazing it is to have family who look like me and to see my mannerisms reflected in my children. 💗 . . Image of a white woman wearing her white infant on her back in a green and white geometric wrap outside in a garden. . . #carryingpicnic #picnicthebaby #babywearingmama #babywearing #babywearer #babywearersofinstagram #yaroslings #contrapine #seacell #adoptee #minime #motherandson #choicemom #singlemotherbychoice #livethelifeyouchoose

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The fourth chakra is #anahata located in the heart. It is concerned with giving and receiving love, which can be hard to face. I love asanas that allow me to open through my heart. I feel this opening in Camel Pose, where we work to keep the pelvis pressing forward, either keeping hands on hips, lower back, or reaching for the ankles. How do you experience this give and take of love? You are so loved.❤️ #fthisishard #journeythroughchakras . . . #camelpose #utrasana #yoga #yogi #greece #peace #breath #mykonos #yogaeverydamnday #namaste #pranayama #yogateacher #chakras #believeinyourself #adoptee #comeasyouare #grlpower

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😓... 보고 싶어요 ...😓 . I miss you. I miss Korea. . . . . #imnotcryingmyeyesaresweating . .

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12_thirtyfour. I am a nanny. Today the little girl I care for was more excited when m

I am a nanny. Today the little girl I care for was more excited when mama got home than when her papa did. Her dad laughed and made a comment to me about how once mama walks in he’s not so important anymore. . I knew he was mostly joking but assured him that he is very important and told him of the time when I was about the same age that his daughter is now and my dad went on a business trip that lasted about three weeks if I remember that detail correctly. . When I was finally reunited with him, my dad loves to tell the story of how I had apparently missed him so much that I wouldn’t let anyone else have anything to do with me for two straight weeks - hold me, feed me, etc. :) . A few minutes after sharing that little story that has always made me smile, I left to drive home. . In the car I replayed that story in my head, running it through my currently evolving adoption lens and it hit me. Little me must have thought he had abandoned me and might never come back. 😳 I am positive my sweet mom probably showed me his picture every day and talked to me about how daddy was coming home soon...but I wonder how much I understood and how sad my heart was. . No wonder I wouldn’t let go of him when we were together again! I’m sure I didn’t want to let him out of my sight for fear he would disappear again! . Just one more revelation about how my life has been affected by adoption. 🤷🏻‍♀️ . #adoption #adoptionrocks #adoptionislove #adoptionistrauma #adoptioniscomplicated #adoptivemom #adoptiveparents #adoptiveparent #adoptivefamily #adopteevoices #adoptee #mystory #hopefuladoptivefamily #changingthenarrative #hopefuladoptivecouple #adopteestrong

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adoptedtwicestudy. On May 9, our Little Man left our house to go live with his aunt. Whil

On May 9, our Little Man left our house to go live with his aunt. While we were so sad about him leaving, we also can’t even begin to the goodness of God. We got to meet them, see their home, encourage them and love them. There are moments where I’ve broken down, but I also know I serve a sovereign God, and His plans are perfect. We can’t wait to take another placement after our crazy summer! @mere_shanks⠀ -⁣⠀ #adoption #adoptee #adoptionadvocate⁣⠀ #community #adoptioncommunity #newmom #momfriends #moving #adoptionislove #lovemakesafamily #mamalife #writeyouonmyheart #documentingmotherhood #littleandbrave #letthembelittle #dailyparenting⠀

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This is my mother and father. They have always been there for me no matter what. I have always felt incredibly grateful for them, but today, my level of gratitude extends beyond what I could have ever imagined. They truly are my heroes. I’m adopted. I could have ended up anywhere. I was in foster care up until I was around 7 months or so, and had never smiled prior to being in their arms. I was a serious baby. I found my birth mother many years ago now and felt my heart break when I learned her story and spent years trying to meet her before she passed away in the DTES. I had never experienced sorrow like that before. At that point, I knew I had to let go of finding my birth parents. I needed to let go to heal. I did, though I’ll always feel for what my birth mother survived in her lifetime. She was a survivor. I just got home from a trip where I met my birth father for the first time. I didn’t look for him nor did he know about me until early this year. I’d like to say our meeting went well and that stars aligned. They didn’t. It was an incredibly saddening day for me as my birth father, Jack, is not a healthy person. He may have lived an exciting life with his music career and sang with some of the greats, like Dolly Parton and Willie Nelson, but that doesn’t mean his life was lived without trouble. Again, my heart breaks, but with much more perspective than before. I do not have space for him in my life. It’s going to take me time to heal. There is a silver lining in this. There are many. One of being that I have four other birth sisters and a brother as well as many more new family members to get to know. I’m just so incredibly grateful for my parents and siblings, my partner and my close friends who’ve been supporting me through all this. Thank you. #adoption #story #musician #parents #love #letgo #nature #home #instadaily #instagood #hellobc #adoptee #vulnerability #artist #artistlife

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